We all know them, the people who reach exceptional success in business, medicine, sports and the arts. It's tempting when we meet these people to believe they're more gifted than the rest of us. Not only does this line of thinking fail to give credit where credit is due, it holds all of us back.
When we attribute success to random fortune, we fail to see what winning looks like. It does not look like one clean score after another. As Michael Jordan said, "I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games; 26 times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."
Winning looks like an ongoing struggle with bright moments of accomplishment and players who keep giving the game their best. John C. Maxwell calls this the Law of Victory. He says that leaders are people who refuse to give up. For them, defeat is not worth considering. If they experience a...
Jonathon Swift said, “Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others.”
As leadership consultants, we at the UpCloseTeam would take that notion one step further. As a leader, if others can’t see what you see, they do not know where the organization is going. That’s why for us, vision is the art of making visible what at first only you see. In other words, it’s about painting a picture so rich and colourful, everyone feels inspired.
John Maxwell calls this The Law of the Picture. Great leaders maintain a balance between staying the course and welcoming fresh ideas. This is particularly important when it comes to sharing their vision. The picture does not change. If it did, people would lose focus. But the picture can gain important details, which will also need to be shared to help everyone continue on course.
Simon Sinek says it so well. “One of the best paradoxes of leadership is a leader's need to be both...
As John C. Maxwell says in his book, "Everyone Communicates Few Connect", the key to success in life and leadership is connection. If you can connect with people, you will have a genuine influence on the world. People will be happier and more productive. Teams will be stronger. Communities will be better places to live.
We all like to be heard. We all like to feel that we've been considered. That's what connection is all about. It's about identifying with people and relating to them in a way that makes them feel valued.
"When we seek for connection, we restore the world to wholeness. Our seemingly separate lives become meaningful as we discover how truly necessary we are to each other." – Margaret Wheatley
In today's world of information overload and busy people, we could all work harder at forming basic human connections. It's the fabric of our society.
Recently, Jon had an appointment with an eye specialist. He needed to talk to several people and...
The Danger of Assumptions
Your communication skills affect every aspect of your life. The success of your job, marriage and personal relationships depends on your ability to communicate. Without strong communication skills, leadership is not possible. People will not follow you if they don’t know what you want or where you're going.
Yet, we often take communication for granted. We assume we are communicating well when it may not be true. We say what we think is important and assume the message is understood.
The Floral Clock Fiasco
Many years ago, my extended family gathered in the Toronto area to enjoy quality time together. It was summer with many fun things to do. On a particularly beautiful sunny day, the men decided to go golfing, the women went shopping, and our children who were by that time young adults went to Niagara Falls. The adult children took an early morning bus ride to the world-famous waterfalls and I agreed to pick them up later in the afternoon.